「祝你們失敗!」美國首席大法官給出「最不吉利」畢業致詞

2017071110:07

美國聯邦最高法院首席大法官羅伯茲(John Roberts),6月3日受邀參加兒子就讀的私立寄宿學校卡帝根山中學(Cardigan Mountain School)給予畢業致詞


 

「謝謝。

同學們,現在有項重要任務,你們的父母或監護人就在後面,三、四年前他們開車送你進來、幫你安頓宿舍,自己再回到空蕩蕩的家裡,這種犧牲無與倫比,那不是為了他們自己,而是為了你們的教育,這個典禮不只是為了你們而舉辦,也是為了他們。各位同學請站起來,給他們一陣熱烈掌聲。

通常,來致詞的講者會祝你們好運、祝你們心想事成,但我不會,讓我告訴你們原因。

接下來的日子,我希望你們時不時受到不公平的對待,這樣你們才會發現公平正義的價值;我希望你們遭受背叛,才能了解忠誠的重要性;

很抱歉,但我希望你們有時會孤單寂寞,才不會把朋友視為理所當然的存在。

我希望你們不時遭遇一些不幸,這樣一來,你們才會意識到機會和運氣在人生裡扮演的角色,你們才會了解,你的成功不完全是你應得的,他人的失敗也不一定是他們應得的命運。

當你們失敗時,應該說你們一定會經歷失敗,但我希望你的對手還會嘲笑你,這能讓你們了解何謂「運動家精神」;

我希望你們被人忽視,你們才會理解傾聽他人的重要性,我也希望你們經歷痛苦,只要足夠的痛苦就好,讓你們得以學習同理他人的心。

其實無論我希不希望如此,這些事都會發生,而你們能否從這些事件受益,則看你們有沒有辦法看出不幸背後的意義。

致詞者通常會給學生一些建議,最常聽見的建議就是『做自己』。這聽起來有點奇妙,畢竟你們現在都穿的一模一樣(指畢業服),不過你們確實應該做自己。

但是,你們必須先了解『做自己』的真義。除非你很完美,否則『做自己』不代表不能接受改變,某種程度上,你們其實不該做自己,而是應該努力成為更好的人。

人們鼓勵『做自己』,是希望你們不要屈服於他人要求你們變成的那種人。但是,除非你們已經了解自己是誰,否則無法『做自己』,而且只有當你們仔細思考,才能了解自己是誰。

希臘哲學家蘇格拉底曾言:「未經審視的人生不值得活著。」做自己當然是很好的格言,但如果你還在摸索如何活出自我,那可能不太適合。

所以,以下是我的建議。

過去幾年中,我熟識了你們之中幾位年輕人,你們都是很棒的小夥子,但你們都是天之驕子,即使你們之前不是,離開這間學校後也會是。我的建議是:不要表現得像個天之驕子。

當你們去到新的學校,記得向清掃校園的人、剷雪的人或清運垃圾的人介紹你自己,記住他們的名字,並以他們的名字稱呼對方。

當你和不認識的人擦肩而過,別忘了微笑,看著他們說聲哈囉。

變成別人印象中那個「微笑打招呼的人」總不會是壞事。」


「Now the commencement speakers will typically also wish you good luck and
extend good wishes to you. I will not do that, and I’ll tell you why. From
time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so
that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer
betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say,
but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take
friends for granted. I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that
you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your
success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not
completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you will from time to time,
I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is
a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you’ll
be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you
will have just enough pain to learn compassion. Whether I wish these things
or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not
will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.

Now commencement speakers are also expected to give some advice. They give
grand advice, and they give some useful tips. The most common grand advice
they give is for you to be yourself. It is an odd piece of advice to give
people dressed identically, but you should — you should be yourself. But you
should understand what that means. Unless you are perfect, it does not mean
don’t make any changes. In a certain sense, you should not be yourself. You
should try to become something better. People say ‘be yourself’ because
they want you to resist the impulse to conform to what others want you to be.
But you can’t be yourself if you don't learn who are, and you can’t learn
who you are unless you think about it. 」